Yesterday, the 12th, I woke up to a call from the doctor informing me about how I was infected like I mentioned in the previous post. After I calmed down I watched Harry Potter to make myself feel better as well as worked on some writing. Dem called me to check on me and he offered for us to hang out that evening when he got off work to which I agreed. I like being with him and so I will admit even in the bad news I was a little excited.
A couple of hours later the guy who infected me called. Marquis. And while I wasn’t god awful to him I was really short with him. I just said, I went to the doctors the other day, they informed me that I got x, so since you were one of the only guys I have slept with recently you need to get checked and then depending on what they say inform any one else you have been with. When I first said I got x, he was shocked, but I repeated myself firmly told him what to do then went silent. He just said ok really awkwardly, and I was like ok well I guess thats it, he paused and was like ok well I’ll talk to you later. I said bye and hung up. Bitch got me sick and couldn’t even ask me if I was ok or how I felt or anything. I know he was in shock but still. I caught the damn thing from him the least he could do was say something. Uhg. Thank my lucky stars its so easily curable but man I can only imagine if I hadn’t been so lucky and gone to the doctor so soon after being with him. If it remained long term it can cause infertility in woman. That fucker.
Anyways! I little while after that Micki gets a hold of me, turns out he wanted my help in making his boyfriend a valentines day video. So after I went to the store and picked up my antibiotic I went out to go write, found out micki wanted my help, had to drive all the way back to my town, pick up my computer and all the way back out to him. Just to have us walk to a bar so that he could eat then me sit and watch him thumb through files because he wasn’t actually ready for me to do any work. I had a great time and I love that boy all the same but I did all that driving for no reason which I can’t help but roll my eyes about. Not to mention I came over to work but he didn’t have anything prepared. He has a habit of that.
I had fun but I also was looking forward to seeing Dem and so when Micki kept lolligagging I just set a time that I was going to go and was assertive about leaving when that time came because if I’m not he will just keep thinking of stuff for us to do that will keep me there.
Dem and Micki live real close to each other so I just drove down the street. When I got there Dem had already been drinking beer and watching Firefly. Firefly is my all time favorite show. We got comfortable on his couch and ended up teasing each other about the show. We talked and laughed a lot and soon we ended up flirty bickering. Shortly after joking about which character belonged with whom and all that goofy stuff he wrapped his arm around me and we started to cuddle. I could tell that he wanted to kiss me but I waited a little and shortly after one of his roommates came down stairs so we talked to him for a little.
After the roommate left we went back to cuddling and it didn’t take long for us to start kissing. We made out for a while. He pushes and pulls on me, running his hands through my hair and eventually he pushes me down and gets on top of me. I soon find out that he was in a feisty mood that night and so he starts teasing me trying to get me to say embarrassing stuff. At one point as he has me pinned down he asks me if I want to keep watching the show or if I want him to keep kissing me the way he was. I get embarrassed really easily and I am actually pretty reserved when it comes to saying how I feel or what I want in that way so I gave my usual non answer to which he picks up on and he is like nnoooo.. you give me a yes or no.
I like the way he looks at me when he’s turned on and the intonation he uses. Its all hot and it makes me blush. I like the way he treats me every moment that I am with him. Sometimes he says something awkward but he is always so sweet to me when we are just hanging out and he is always so cute, hot, and attentive when we are being physical. He continued to tease me the whole time we were fooling around, getting more and more feisty as we went. He wanted me to say things to him like admit how much I wanted him and ask for more and stuff like that. I admitted that I am really bad at that but he really wanted me to and so we compromised.
Normally I don’t feel comfortable enough with someone to try at such things. I am a person who takes a long time to develop trust and equally long if not longer to feel comfortable doing or saying embarrassing things. So for me to try to compromise with him took a lot of nerve for me. But he is such a good person and such a gentle heart that he is the first person besides my best friend who makes me feel safe enough that its worth the try.
There was so many moments even just in foreplay that were really hot. The way he grabbed me felt so good and at one point he me going so much that I was shaking to which he got far too much enjoyment out of. We went upstairs and undressed each other as we made out. We had plenty of foreplay and he really likes going down on me which I certainly can not complain.
I do have to tell him to be gentle a number of times because my body is sensitive and when he gets worked up he gets a tiny bit rough but I really like the way he touches me so its no biggy. After we had sex we just cuddled and talked a little then fell asleep.
There is a couple of things that are unique about being with him that I have noticed so far. Things that make me feel both excited and nervous. One is that I feel comfortable with him. I feel like I can have as deep of conversation as I like with him and not feel like I am bothering him or saying anything that goes over his head. Another is that he gets me when it comes to my need to help people which is uncommon. Another is he makes me want to open up to him and he makes me feel safe in doing so which is extremely rare in my life. Yet another is that I went to sleep naked with him which is something I rarely ever feel comfortable doing.
The last is the most significant for me. Which is that when I am with him I sleep through the night. This might sound like a weird thing to find significant but if you knew me you would understand. I rarely ever feel safe around people. I love them, even believe in them, but there is one thing that I never believe, which is that, should something bad happen, they will be there for me. This lack of belief makes me never feel completely safe.
This tends to manifest in my sleeping patterns. When I am alone I feel the most safe when I am sleeping but even then there is still the tiniest bit of paranoia or extra awareness. Like no one has my back but me. When I am with others not only do I have to worry about my own safety but I have to worry about the safety of them too, and in an environment I might now know very well too. Its not thoughts but it manifests as a restless feeling that flutters deep inside me. On a good night when I am alone I wake up anywhere from 2-4 times a night, bad night I wake up 4-8 times. When I am with people its impressive if I actually sleep deep at all and usually it never exceeds 2-3 hours unless I have known the person for a long time and trust them a lot. Usually when I am with someone else I stir and sleep incredibly lightly to the point where its hard to judge if I actually slept at all. Even in the company of Maemae I only sleep as well as I would if I was alone and not better.
The only person in my life who has ever made me feel safe is Ralphie. He is also the only one who has effected the way I sleep in a positive way. When I am in the company of Ralphie I sleep through the night. It is so rare and so powerful that it makes a significant impact on me and means so much to me. He was the only person to have that effect on me, until Dem. For some reason, when I am with Dem I sleep through the night. I feel completely safe. I never feel that way. That matters to me, more then I can express or understand. It is, significant.
I sleep through the night when I am with Dem and when I wake up I wake up to him wrapping his arms around me and kissing me sweetly, running his hands all over my body. We usually make out and hold hands and end up having sex in the morning as well. We have only been together twice but while we were on the couch making out he said that we seem to be making a habit of this and I said that I didn’t mind and I asked him if he did and he clearly didn’t.
I don’t want to jump into anything too quickly or get too ahead of myself. But I will admit, I don’t feel motivated to be involved with anyone but him. I don’t want to get hurt by him but I know that he would never hurt me intentionally. We just have to take it slow and test the waters. If I find out he doesn’t want anything serious with me then I will try to keep myself detached and see other people but if he feels the way that I am leaning towards, which is take things slow but still see how things go with us, then I want to work at letting someone in and not being involved with anyone else.
He makes me happy and he makes me feel safe. He has talked to me everyday since he has got my phone number even valentines day and almost every one of those days we talk to each other until we go to bed and pick up the conversation when we are both up. I can’t help but want to see him again.